Still Drowning
I was drowning and I reached out to find a hand to pull me out of the water. I found this person. He showed up and provided me with an illusion of help. He left as quickly as he arrived, let go of my hand, and left me in the very same water where he found me gasping for air. This experience wasn't unfamiliar since this was the very behavior that is suffocating me in my own personal relationship. My husband's narcissistic tendencies promise a reality or actions he can't or doesn't intend to provide or commit to. He pretends or presents as though he will follow through and never does. This was my experience here. He said he had to step away from running the group. Mentioned someone would run it in his absence, but after three occations where I was the only one in the group, I felt abandoned, discarded and betrayed, again experiences with which I'm already familiar. Consistency and dependability were absent in my experience here, but I am certain there are others who's experience was more positve and got what they needed in this space.
By Justice J.
Response from Heal Narcissism· Jun 27, 2025
I am deeply sorry for the hurt I have caused in you. You are right. I stepped away from hosting the free support group for loved ones and I didn't put anyone in my place. I posted in the community to see if someone would offer and nobody did. I let this slip between the cracks and it appears that you were hurt in the process. I am deeply sorry for the hurt you are going through with your narcissistic husband. Nobody should have to go through that. I am sorry that you showed up to the group meetings hoping for a bit of relief only to be let down and to probably feel worse. This is my fault and I am sorry I didn't prevent this from happening. Thank you for calling me out and showing me how much people depend on me. I wish you luck with your husband and your own healing journey. ❤️🩹